Come to Realization

I've always wanted to know what the "rules" are for missionary girlfriends. What we're allowed to do, and what we're not allowed to do. But i think i just realized that there are not a lot of official guidelines for missionary girlfriends. A lot of people think they know the rule, when in reality that rule doesn't really exist--it's just something people have said.

I find that instead of being a distraction, we can be one of their most solid supports. Especially in how active we stay in the church, stay in contact with his family, and in our letters and packages.

It's true that the statistics for missionaries marrying the girl are not exactly amazing, but that doesn't mean missionary relationships don't exist, or that they are a waste of time. I think it means we should look beyond the numbers and ask why it is that so many girls give up. My theory is because we feel so hopeless and alone, and because we don't get a lot of support. I want to combat the failure rates and i think more people should be supportive and give girls a sense that they aren't crazy or totally alone.

I could go on for hours, but I'll just let end with those thoughts. 

Some Thoughts on Blogs

Wow, my first blog!
It's Christmastime so naturally i was online looking at presents for my boyfriend. K technically i wasn't looking for him, i was looking for myself. Who doesn't look for things that they want? Don't answer that. We're both LDS and Preston is going on a mission in two months. That's what this blog is going to basically be about. Wait i'm getting ahead of myself. So i was Christmas shopping and i want a locket that says something about being a "missionary girlfriend" or "waiting on a missionary" on it. I couldn't find one.. But i kept running into blogs about being a missionary girlfriend. So here i am now. Writing my own blog about how i am going to be a missionary girlfriend.

Missionary girlfriends need support! We have so many people telling us that we'll find someone else or that we'll be married two months after they leave. Which we ALL know is far from true. We need people around us who know what we're going through. The good and the bad.
I found so many blogs that offered so much support, and stories, and advice. So i wanted to be a part of it right away. Technically my missionary hasn't left yet. But it's hard before he leaves too. It seems so hard to focus on present when all i want to focus on is trying to prepare myself for him to be gone. We've been together for 2 and a half years in January 2011. We met when we were 16 and now he's about to turn 19 on December 28th. The thought of him going on a mission was so incredibly distant and far away. But now it's here. And as supportive i want to be, it's so hard not to  explain to him how much i'm going to miss him.
I seem to be kind of obsessed with the whole idea. He's going to Hungary, and now i want to learn Hungarian. I want to buy him Hungarian stuff, i want to read the Book of Mormon along with him. I want to make sure we write every single week. Goodness why am i even thinking about this? It's still about two months away... it's just coming faster than i thought..